So as I sit with my family at the table for dinner I realize I have nothing to talk about with them anymore. With the 19 years that have passed in my life my family and I have nothing in common anymore we are in two different worlds now and and its sad to see.
I love them but I only love them sometimes. I am still at the table writing this while they eat and no one talks to me, even when I wasn't typing this out they didn't say a word to me I guess I am just kinda invisible now.
I just don't understand how I can be so disconnected for them ones I should have the biggest bonds with. All I can think is this suck ass, yo.
So I tell my mother what I am doing on my computer and she just says to me "we just ignore your bad behavior" then she points at my computer and my cell phone and goes back to clearing the table.
Well I do try I guess hahaa maybe another time I can try and bond with them again.
Dinner time for most families is the one time of day that you all meet if no other time of the day. Usually it is a time to reflect on what everyone has done in the day and future thoughts. My suggestion would to be make it a goal or challenge to make it a more festive time. Do so research on subjects you know your mom or dad might be interested. Know enough that you can carry a conversation about it. As a dialogue opens up then put in some of your interests as well. Everyone has times they do not like their family and even their friends but one can get past that most of the time. Current affairs is a good point of conversation. What is going on in the news. The computor has most every paper in the world. Special interests like that each one might have. Pay attention when you are around them of what their interests are like. If they are talking garden, look for ads of sales and say "hey I saw Petunnias on sale at so and so an ad." You now have their interest. Goes for everybody. Whatever it is find things they like, open up a conversation, allow them to talk about their stuff, then rush in and talk about yours. Dont give up on the family connection. I will help you if I can.
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